In his landmark book Social Intelligence: the New Science of Success (Wiley, 2005), Dr. Karl Albrecht offers the following definitions:

• Social Intelligence: the ability to get along well with others, and to get them to cooperate with you.


• "Toxic" behavior: A consistent pattern of behavior that makes others feel devalued, inadquate, angry, frustrated, or guilty.


• "Nourishing" behavior: A consistent pattern of behavior that makes others feel valued, capable, loved, respected, and appreciated.

"The deepest craving in every human being
is the desire to be appreciated."
~ William James, pioneer of
modern psychology

For each of the pairs of opposite behaviors on the list below, think carefully — and honestly — about how they might describe you (or the person you're rating, if not yourself). Click one of the numbered columns from 0 through 4, to show how consistently you believe you behave one way vs. the other.

Click 0 if you often engage in the most toxic behavior, 1 for less often, 2 for an equal mixture of both toxic and nourishing behaviors, 3 for mostly nourishing behavior, and 4 for the most nourishing behavior.

Your net "T-N" score will be the sum of all the item scores. The highest possible score – all nourishing behaviors – would be 100 points. The lowest possible score – all toxic behaviors – would be zero. Items left unanswered will default to zero.

When you've selected all your ratings, click the "Get Score" button and scroll to the bottom of the page to see your net "T-N" score.

Note: the comparison questions (gender, age, etc.) are necessary for anonymous statistical analysis. We do not set cookies, or identify you or your computer in any way. The name field is just for your convenience in studying the report.